If we're still having issues a month or two from now we'll consult an attachment therapist in Indianapolis, but for now... we're just do a lot of holding, a lot of Tylenol, deal with the teething, and Daddy will work on finding ways to distract Hannah from being upset that Mama is gone and/or just can't hold her all of the time. If Hannah acted like this when we got her... we'd think normal post-adoption grief. Instead we had four weeks of smiling, curious, and happy sunshine baby who suddenly became this very different "touch me not" and "Mama's got to hold me all of the time" girl who won't even let me lay her down to change her diaper with out screaming her head off. I miss My Sunshine. I wish I could see a lot more of that dimpled smile again.
I sing to you when I pick you up out of your crib in the morning. "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. You make me happy when skies are gray."
After some Tylenol and a long nap, she was much better tonight. She ate more than I've ever seen her eat before (baby food macaroni tomato dinner, baby food green beans, some puffs, 1/3 of a banana, and a few bites of beans from the ham and beans that we had for dinner). She watched Kevin make corn bread and picked up the eggs out of the carton to hand over to Daddy. I'm trying to stay out of the way while Hannah and Daddy are playing and dancing around to BabyTV channel music.
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I'm working on scrapping the photo pages for our first post placement report, and I'll post them here as they are completed.
Awww... it sounds like really tough times for you guys right now. Velcro baby + teething pain = very, very tired parents. Don't hesitate to call in reinforcements so you don't burn out. I'll be sure to ay a prayer for Miss Hannah Claire and her parents.
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ReplyDeletei am not an adoption attachment specialist, but i can tell you that my kids were both VERY attached to me. they would cry when anyone else would hold them, including my husband!!! we were very focused on attachment, so i carried them a lot from the beginning, slept with them, breastfed, etc. my indigo at 22 months still cries when i leave, again, even if i leave her with my husband.
i have read that separation anxiety can start around 9 mo-12 months old. and think of it this way, kids were meant to be intensely bonded to their mamas! it would not be safe in most of the world for kids to be left alone or to willingly go to strangers.
again, i am not an expert at post-adoption attachment but all i can tell you is this was normal for my two. now jude is so confident and grown up that you would guess he was once the clingy baby that never wanted to leave his mama!
hang in there. you are doing great!!!
oops, in my third paragraph in my last looonng comment i meant to say you would *never* guess now that Jude was once an uber-clingy baby!
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Babies just do that sometimes. It doesn't last forever. Just love on her. She won't want to be held for very long and she will be off and running. xoxoxo
ReplyDeleteIt does sound like she may be teething. I love the scrap book pages.
ReplyDeleteSarah, It does sound like teething. E has been super snotty from being sick and now she is F-U-S-S-Y all day long. SHe has been like this ofr days. She has been chewing on her paci too. It dawned on me she could be teething. I felt around in her mouth and felt one canine breaking through and her other canine trying to come through. Now I know why she's been velcro baby to me! She is normally attached to me, but now that she doesn't feel well, she's super-dee-duper clingy! I am sure once here teeth break through, she'll be more of her 'old' self : )
ReplyDeleteBoth of my girls went through stages of being only a mommies girl! It happens with adoptive and biological babies. In fact, most biological babies are only for mommy for the first year of life, so think of it like Hannah is in her first year of life with you!! I wouldn't stress too much about it, I think it is normal. Alea was 100 percent a velcro baby! Now she is more of a daddy girl. I agree with Jeani--they wont' want to be held forever, enjoy it while it lasts--I'd do anything to remember cuddle times with Braylen because they just didn't last too long and now she's all "grown" up in Kindergarten!!! Hang in there. Teething is rough on some of them.
ReplyDeleteCompletly normal! You may look at some past blogs about Velcro babies and I will send you a few links too. The timeing was alot like your Hannah's too, so she is not be abnormal in adoption or if she were bio. So, just tiring for you guys but it wont last forever and just makes for healthy bonding :) Just a little anxious attachment going on along with a spice of learning to wrap mommy! Seeming as she just got you, to make lightly of course... Kinda like that new pair of pants you love (he he) but odviously more important. Best wishes to you guys.
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Sarah, good to check in on you and your little (fussy) princess. I'm sorry to hear that it's been a little rough lately; it does sound like she's working on some toofies. Not fun, but this too shall pass!
ReplyDeleteI love all the scrapbook pages...
That must be the song to sing. Becuase I sang that one to Theresa until she was about 2 and then she would sing it to herself at night.
ReplyDeleteOnce again Sarah your pages are beautiful... Hannah is acting completely normal... no worries..
ReplyDeleteThey just leave those sections out of all the books.
Oh my word, Sarah - I can't get over how gorgeous your blog is!!! :) Well, your daughter is even more gorgeous - but you know what I mean :) I have got to know what kind of camera you use - it's so sharp!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your day! Glad the Post Placement went well :)
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All sounds completely normal to me! :) Horrible in Taiwan, honeymoon period when we first got home (sort of), back to moody velcro girl, and then at about 3-4 months, life starts to settle in. We are seeing a LMFT and are pleased with it. Hannah, being much younger than Gracyn, has time on her side. Great that you're open to seeking help on attachment. Better she's clingy than indifferent!! Hannah is beautiful. I know I say that in almost every comment, but she IS, and I can't imagine you're tired of hearing it!!!
ReplyDeleteAh... my almost 9-month old Bio daughter is a total mamma's girl. Especially if she is tired. She will play with daddy, but when whe wants mommy - watch out! Full on screaming fits - tons of snot, tears, etc. So I guess my point is - sounds like Hannah is 100 percent normal! She is just at an age where she know what she wants but can't communicate it very well. And babies that age want Mommy. Totally normal. Hugs to you all!
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