Saturday, March 10, 2012

adoptive parent blunder for the evening

I sent Kevin out to pick up a movie that I reserved on Redbox tonight titled "The Shunning." I used to work one day a week in a community with a lot of Amish and enjoyed learning about this group of people. It was a made for TV movie and I assumed that it would be family friendly. Anyway, I had no idea that the film was about a woman who was adopted by an Amish couple and never told about the adoption. Hannah picked up on it right away, about five seconds after I did.

In my head alarm bells went off. Oh no! We have to talk about what's going on in the movie. We stopped the movie and talked about why the twenty year old young woman was so upset because her mommy and daddy never told her about her adoption story until she was a grown up. This made the young woman feel very angry. I reminded Hannah about how we talk about the baby house and Taiwan family and she has seen lots of pictures of herself in Taiwan. I emphasized that we don't keep secrets about her adoption in our house, that she can talk about it anytime she wants to, and that it's okay to feel happy or sad about her adoption. I shared that I would be very angry, too, if my parents kept secrets from me about my adoption.

I asked, "Is there anything you want to talk about?" Hannah replied, "My baby brother is in Taiwan and he's going to be coming home soon. I'm going to share my toys with him."

I love that girl dearly. Movie resumed. Ding ding! Text message. One new Hudson photo! Hooray!


  1. Oh, that would be surprising! That's kind of how I felt when we watched Tangled. But really, it's not even a blunder, just part of life:)
    And of course Hannah responded well:)
    By the way, was it good?

    1. Yes, Hannah did a great job. I was just frustrated with myself because I didn't know more about the movie before letting her watch it with us. If I would have known, I would have had a talk with her BEFORE the movie so she'd be prepared.

  2. Oh, it was good... In a Lifetime movie kind of way. :)

  3. So not so sure a blunder! Sounds like a great conversation with your amazing princess!!! :) And congrats on the new picture!! I know that just made your month! :)

  4. You did an AWESOME job with the adoption conversation!!! I truly believe that God gives us the words we need at the exact time we need them:) Hugs!!!!


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